Will You be Accountable This Year? (from David)

David sent me this blog post. It is dated January 6, 2010.

David writes:

I haven't written lately about accountability. At least not directly. No matter our relationship status; married, single, engaged, etc.; we are all accountable for our behavior. When my first marriage ended after seven years, primarily as a result of my pornography addiction, I thought I was set free to pursue my addiction without harming anyone. I quickly learned that my behavior had consequences I had not imagined.

I sunk into a depression, isolated myself even more, felt shame and guilt more deeply than ever. I lost all touch with my family and friends. I lived in a fantasy world of sex and lust. I had no contact with God save for the nights I laid in bed and begged for it to end. Unaccountable? I think not.

What does accountability look like? It is owning up to behaviors that include pornography and sexual acting out. It is putting checks and balances in place that help avoid temptation (like filtering and reporting software - http://www.covenanteyes.com/?promocode=shame2grace). It is joining an accountability group and securing an accountability partner. All of these steps require us to admit we are fallible humans. Don't let that stop you.

God bless,
David