There is hope

First of all, I would like to thank David and Lisa for allowing me to contribute to their blog. The fact they are willing to put their lives on display for the purpose of helping others with this affliction is both courageous and inspiring. Like Lisa, I am also the wife of a sex addict. My husband and I have been together for almost six years and married for two. I had absolutely no clue he even had an addiction – much less a sex addiction. Like most people, I didn’t even really know what sex addiction was. My only concept of the definition was either someone who liked to have a lot of sex or a dirty old man in back room of a porn store. Needless to say, over the last year ½, that definition has been blown out of the water. I am truly married to the guy next door. He’s intelligent, comes from a great family and is very high functioning. I had suspected that there was something going on in our marriage due to the disconnection we had that seemed to grow and fester but never would have guessed this. My eyes have been opened to the reality of this affliction and how many victims it has taken. For those who are reading this blog who are either secretly suffering from sex addiction or has a partner who is a sex addict, I want to offer you hope. While the last couple of years have been the hardest of my life, this discovery has been a gift. We have a long way to go, but the intimacy we have achieved through this journey to recovery is deeper than I could have ever imagined.

- Wife of an addict