Operation Vacation (from David)

David sent me this blog post. It is dated October 5, 2009.

David writes:

How do you gauge whether your vacation was a success? A good time? The weather cooperated? You caught more fish than you hoped? The accommodations were more luxurious than expected? You hit every giant ball of yarn, desert zoo, and wax museum you had on the list? Well, those all sound reasonable. Sadly, Lisa and I used to measure our vacations by the number of arguments. Our life was so filled with shame, resentment and fear that even our times dedicated to "fun" were generally exercises in tolerance. We would say, "That was a good vacation, we hardly argued." How sad is that? In contrast, the last few months we've measured the success of our vacations by how connected we were, how many times we showed affection, and how much time we spent laughing. We even considered it a success when we were crying with each other, not because of each other. I'm so grateful to our therapist and our support groups for helping us find what is truly important. So, whether we're going to Wilmington or Wally World, our time together is cherished and valued. If you're measuring lumps rather than love, there is still hope.

God bless,
David