addiction vs.addiction

I was watching this show on TV about interventions. I began thinking about alcohol addiction versus pornography addiction. In alcohol addiction, the addiction cannot be hidden. You can smell it. You can physically tell when someone has had too much to drink as they are staggering and their speech is slurred. It's harder to hide. There is a greater chance of being "discovered". While pornography addiction is not so noticeable. A porn addict can be on the computer and easily hide their behavior. While both addictions leave the addict full of guilt and shame, there is more of a chance the alcohol addict will be confronted with their problem. People are more likely to find out about the alcohol addiction, and therefore intervene. Where as the porn addiction is not as likely to be discovered and therefore less likely for an "intervention". Both addicts want help.

It seems as though there is more of a chance for alcohol addicts to recover with help from their surrounding friends and family. The porn addicts family and friends most of the time have no idea there is a problem in the first place. With this being said, if a porn addict is not strong enough to get help on their own, and now one knows about their addiction, what chance does the porn addict have for recovery? I had suspected something was wrong in my marriage, but did not know what. Addicts are very good at hiding their addiction. Had my husband had an alcohol addiction, I would have been more likely to recognize it and encourage him to get help. Whereas with his porn addiction, I had no idea. I would ask what he was doing on the computer, and he would always have an answer such as, "I'm paying bills.", "I'm playing games", or "I'm working". I could not dispute that he was doing or not doing these things. As I would approach, he would quickly close the screen or log-off. I could not have imagined that he was looking at porn most of this time. If your spouse is lost in their computer, that may be a sign of a much bigger problem.